Side Chick Music

Soo lets talk real quick. It was brought to my attention that SZA is supposedly “side chick music.”  Now if you really listen to SZA you would know what she is all about. But most people refer to her based off of her song “The Weekend” Where she says

“You say you got a girl
How you want me?
How you want me when you got a girl”

“My man is my man is your man
Heard that’s her man
Tuesday and Wednesday, Thursday and Friday
I just keep him satisfied through the weekend”

And yeah on the outside looking in it sound exactly like that. But take it from this stand point. What if you were dealing with a man who is supposedly in love with two or more woman? each woman knows about each other and are okay with what is going on with him. Does that make her a side chick? who is really the main chick? But really is it just her saying shit he is for everybody!?

SZA isn’t this “Hey everybody lets just play these nigga how the play us!” She is about empowerment. Her songs are about the things she has and is going through. I bring this topic up because of her new music video Supermodel. The video begin with her doing what all woman do looking in the mirror pick at ourselves, with her “man” in the back laugh at her. These kids come and make her feel beautiful. As she is walking the road in a forest she is straight WORKING and SLAYING!!!! But while walking she see’s her man laughing at her again.

“I could be your supermodel
If you believe
If you see it in me
See it in me
See it in me

I don’t see myself
Why I can’t stay alone just by myself
Wish I was comfortable just with myself
But I need you”

That is the words of a woman that constantly fight with her self esteem something we all have trouble with. Its the same with the song Drew Barrymore

“I get so lonely, I forget what I’m worth
We get so lonely, we pretend that this works
I’m so ashamed of myself think I need therapy-y-y-y
I’m sorry I’m not more attractive
I’m sorry I’m not more ladylike
I’m sorry I don’t shave my legs at night
I’m sorry I’m not your baby mama
I’m sorry you got karma comin’ to you
Collect and soak in it right”

Here’s something from Broken Clocks

“All I got is these broken clocks
I ain’t got no time
Just burning daylight
Still up still up
Its still love its
Still love still love still loving still love
Nothing but love for you
Nothing but love
Nothing but love”

In the end of all of this SZA is a real one. She sings about being in these crazy stages of our lives in these crazy ass 20’s. Where you would think we would be past self esteem issues, bad relationships, and toxic love. But it life and we gotta keep pushing through. But next time you listen to supposedly “side chick music” listen to the story and not just the chicks who live their lives off of being a side chick. And just saying Shirley Murdock – As We Lay is side chick music lol but its still my jam! Tell me what you think about SZA -CTRL!

peace, love, and positivity

What I love and Why I love it

So I’m going to give you a quick story on why I love to do makeup and how I began this journey with it.

When I was about 15, I would say that was when I first notice that I was interested in makeup. I loved the colors of the eye shadows my mother had, How the black eyeliner would make my eyes pop. (I have light brown eyes.) It just use to be simply things like a little eyeliner here and there. Now of course I wasn’t the greatest at applying it but it was a start.

 

 

 

 

Now my senior prom is when I really got into makeup, I went to MAC to get it done as usually but this time the girl used so many colors and products I was so interested. asking question; What is this for? How do you use this?

 

 

 

Now I go off to college and start experimenting. But still not knowing nothing about contouring and highlighting or the importance of EYEBROWS!! But at least my base was even. lol

 

 

 

I leave college and just kind of do my own thing for awhile got to a relationship and really rarely wore makeup but here are a few pictures. Mind you still a working progress.

And then in 2014 I had my sons, I became a stay at home mom. I didn’t really do too much at home beside take care of my son’s and go to school. So  I watched YouTube makeup tutorials all day. How to contour and highlight, how to correctly do you eyebrow. HIGHLIGHTERS!!!! Eyeliner, Eye shadow blending. I had found my life goal. Once I started practicing, people would compliment me on my makeup all the time. How do I do this or that? Who does my makeup? Will I do their’s? I had truly found what I wanted to do for the rest of my life.

Now I have never loved doing anything as much as I love doing my makeup and others too. It is my everything. I wonder for years what I wanted to do with my life. I have changed my major so many times from psychology, to early education, to IT, to now finally Business. I want to build myself a brand and create something I can give to my children when they come of age. I learned that within the last year that if you don’t follow your dreams and goals that what are you really doing?

 

Live Healthy ❤

 

 

Going Bra Less

Yep you read correct! I’ve decided to go bra less. Now I know you’re like wtf for? I’ve been doing my own research on why we first are “supposed” to wear bras and the benefits and then I did my research on why we really don’t need to wear bras. So I’ll show you some of the pro’s and con’s of both. The bra industry is was made to make woman think we need to wear bras, that it would keep them from sagging, or it would help with back support, that it helps keep them under control when being active.

Pros

1. Going bra-less actually help your breast stay perky. Wondering why? Your breast have natural muscles that keep them up. When you wear a bra your body becomes less depended on its own muscles and more on the bra to keep them up. By the time we’re in our 50’s we have saggy breast and that muscle like all other muscles becomes soft when unused.
2. It helps blood circulation, when wearing a bra it can cause restriction from the bands around your upper body. So even if you don’t feel comfortable not wearing a bra all day. As soon as you get home take that bitch off!! lol.
3. Its a lot more comfortable when you go all day without it. Once you get passed the feeling of not wearing a bra you get comfortable with walking around like if you had one on. It becomes normal…. eventually.
4. Pro for me… I have a slip disc in my lower spine, and when I wear bra it tends to make me uncomfortable throughout the day. But once I get home and take my bra off I feel a lot better. So I decided to go a whole week without wearing one and I’ve only had one day with a back problem and to add I was on my period that day and cramps are a bitch.
5. Save money! Bra are expensive. And I like Victoria Secret and Pink bras, those are 40-50 dollars. Overall it a cost that can be cut.

Cons

1. Nipping. Uggghhhh the worst of the worst. This the one thing that made me feel super uncomfortable when I was at work or out and about. So I researched things I could do to stop nipping. Because shit it gets cold in my build and my nipples are pieced so they automatically get hard.
2. Getting used to being without a bra. I’ve been wearing a bra since I was 11 years old. It becomes a part of your routine. Underwear, bra, shirt, pants, socks. So getting used to not using that one thing is hard to forget. But I’ve gotten used to it.
3. Having big boobs so you supposedly need a bra. Now I don’t know to much on this because I am a C cup but here is a really good article on woman with big boobs and going braless .

 

Things that can help with going braless

Pasties !

These are reusable up to to 30 times, you can clean the with a mid soap and they are ready to go. I like these for when I’m wearing camisoles.

Nipple shields

These have to be my absolute favorite!! Its self adhesive, which means it stick to your body when it warms up and once it’s stuck it not going anywhere! Once again its reusable.

A Quick Breast Lift

 

These are awesome for regular tee shirts! It comes with pasties. It lifts your breast up and makes them look even perkier. Con of course it not reusable but I like this as well.

In the picture above I’m wearing the breast lift and I have to say it was perfect. I wasn’t uncomfortable, my nipples weren’t showing and it had a nice natural lift look.

Overall I can tell a little difference in my breast and myself confidence in my body. Slowly but surely I’m learning to accept my body as is. Now I know what your thinking where are all your bras at??? Still at home. I only use them when needed which is usually for special occasions. And if people are staring at you because they can see your nipple stare right back at them. You shouldn’t feel shamed for YOUR body. Let the nipple be free!

 

Live Healthy ❤

 

recognize.

 

A lot of times people think that their accomplishments have to go recognize. But they really don’t. I always tell people that the things I do and the reason I work so hard for the things I want in life is because I do it for myself, not for my kids, not for my family, not for my friends. I do what I want or need to give me the sense of accomplishment. I don’t do it so someone can give me a pat on the back. So just because you don’t see me moving doesn’t mean things aren’t in motion.